Wadad's Biodata

Yes, I pray 5 times a day. But I have not always prayed 5 times a day. I have my ups n downs in imaan hence I have not consistently prayed. My best was praying 3 months straight without intentionally missing any namaz. I want to be a spouse who prays and I want a spouse who prays, when either of us are going through low imaan, we remind & motivate each other to not miss any salah.

I was just a namesake muslim for first 20 years of my life. I had 0 knowledge & was very fed up not knowing the right answer when questioned by others or when watching those anti-islamic youtube videos. Then in Jan 2020, I decided to read the entire Quran's transalation (what a journey that was). It was as if I truly became a muslim by heart & soul after reading it, alhumdulillah.

Since then, I avoid shirkh, kept fasts for Ramadan, give zakat, upload the ties of kinship, never lie, never backbite, don't look down on people, always lowered my gaze, solved my anger issues and followed the Sunnah to my best. For my future goals, I want learn Arabic to be able to understand it fully and of course, hajj with my spouse.

I quit listening to music in 2020, so I no longer listen to music. Although this year, I listen to it as backgroud noise when I have to write code while being burnt out. I'll ensure even stop that moving forward.

I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do drugs. No vimal nor hookah nothing.

I do not believe in men & women being friends in Islam. So no, I do not have any female friends nor do I intend to keep any. I did had female friends in school & college, which I agree was haram but I did not even know the concept of non-mahram in Islam back then. By talking to them I have learnt how to talk & behave with women. But it has been 2 years since I had any interaction with a woman. So rest assured I will have no female friends. Not now, not after marriage.

To be honest, during my college days in my moments of anger, I have lost some friendships. This taught me how important it is to control one's anger. So from past 4 years, I have constantly controlled my anger & always showed patience. Now I do not get angry on silly things, even if I do get angry I just keep silent & go sleep it off. Anger is a disease for mankind, and I have made myself a man to no longer be angry even if the other person is raging on me. I promise to never shout on my wife no matter the situation or how angry I get, That is a promise from me.

During times of conflict/arguments, I will keep my calm & resolve it without shouting or without any remarks. It is not me vs you, it's me & you vs the problem.

For the first 2-3 years of marriage, I want me & my wife to live together. This might sound controversial but yes, I will not force her to live with my parents. I respect the right to privacy and the freedom that comes with living with your spouse. The way we behave in front of our spouses is not the same way we might behave in front of parents.

The first 2-3 years of marriage is very crucial, I want to spend this time together to build up trust among each other. When we fully understand each other then we are able to tackle conflicts from parents. Regarding location, I prefer Hubli cuz it has all facilities you could ask for, but if there is another city where cost of living is low and lifestyle + safety is good, then we can move there as well since I have wfh job.

This is again a controversial take but I do not want to have children for first 4-5 years of marriage. Considering our ages, we will be marrying young, but that does not mean we must also be young parents? Being a parent is not as easy as it looks. Going through pregnancy, raising children, handling each other while taking care of kids; this can go toxic real soon if we go for children without being prepared.

That's why, I want us to first build our relationship, build our finances, build our trust & understanding in each other before we build a family.

I have always been an introvert, untill one day in college, few of my friends called me extrovert while others called me introvert. Then a senior revealed it to me that am actually an ambivert. An ambivert is sm1 who behaves as an introvert or an extrovert depending on the situation. Like I have enough courage to give a speech in front of thousands yet I can't talk freely when sm1 I am not familiar with is present in the convo. I am able to show my extrovert side to people who am comfortable with. But in front of relatives or strangers, I'll be shy & soft spoken. Am not keen on travelling to faraway places, but I really look forward to travel with my friends.

A simple nikah done in Masjid. ( Non-negotiable ^_^ )

• 1] Patience: During any fight, any conflict, any problem I will always be patient with my wife. I will never shout at her nor pass any hurtfull remark
• 2] Kindness: I will listen to my wife's problem and be emotionally available for her. Even if she commits any mistake, I will defend her in public but advice her in private. And will always protect her from all harms physical or emotional
• 3] Funny/Sarcastic: Well, I used to standup so I can make any1 smile. Anytime my wife is Sad, I will cheer her up. As long as our humour matches, I assure that her life will be filled with laughter
• 4] Romantic: Won't go in details but expect me to be a romantic partner
• 5] Jealousy: I will be a jealous husband. I can control anger, I can control grief, but I cannot control my jealousy whatsoever. I hate it when non-mahram men speak to my wife or even glance at her.
• 6] Fitness: I'll be going to gym and have a healthy diet to keep myself in shape.

• 1] Deen: Praying Salah, keeping fast, having fear of Allah & love of Prophet is very important.
• 2] Modesty: Dressing modestly, not wearing revealing clothes, no posting pictures on instagram & covering herself in hijab. (non-negotiable)
• 3] Loyalty: No talking with non-mahram males, no texting with non-mahram males, and no male friends. (non-negotiable)
• 4] Sense of Humor: I do not expect my wife to crack jokes, but as long as she can understand my jokes, we are golden.
• 5] Fitness: Eagerness to stay fit to be a healthy woman & live a long live without any disease.
• 6] Reseaonable: Being resonable when making decisions or requesting things so that we do not have any unnecessary arguments

I actually have some preferences for my wife. If you have all of these preferences present in you, am all in for you. But even if you do not have all, it can be possible you are so awesome that you make me forego my preferences. So please read this just to understand what kind of wife does wadad prefers.

• 1] I want a wife who wears a niqab. I know that niqab is not fardh in Islam, but such is my jealously that I do not want any non-mahram man to even look at my wife's face. Think of it like if hijab is for Allah, then niqab is for husband.
• 2]I want a wife with a sweet voice. Some men fall for the face, some for the eyes & some for the smile, but I fall for the voice >_<
• 3]I want a skinny wife. Well am a skinny person, so naturally I want to be with another skinny person.

Please note that I do not see skin color. I am a south Indian so I have no problem if your skin color is white, fair, wheatish, brown or dark (am marrying a person not some ice-cream flavor)

Am okay with my wife being either of the type, but there are some conditions:

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Job: If you do job, then it should be a wfh job. Not cause I want you to stay at home, but I have been in office before and it's very very toxic. But if you can prove that the job you do impacts humanity on a duniya or deen wise, then we can discuss on this. Also Education is very important, not being able to converse in english with me could be a dealbreaker.

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Housewife: If you are a housewife, then it's alright if you do not have any high-end degree. But, you need to have an Islamic Science degree. Sm1 who knows Arabic & can understand Quran, so that she can teach me Arabic & help me understand Quran.

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I don't have good photos of myself, but am told I look better in real life :)